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Check with bride, groom before posting engagement announcement

QUESTION: I am the mother of the bride and would like to announce my daughter’s engagement to the public in the local newspaper. Should I contact the groom’s parents to see if they would like to have the announcement appear in their city also? Is it OK for the announcement to appear a year ahead of the wedding?

CALLIE’S ANSWER: Of course you can announce the engagement a year ahead of the wedding. It would be very nice of you to contact the groom’s parents as well. Best wishes to the happy couple!

LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: Since this column appears in a newspaper, I want to encourage you to put your daughter’s engagement in any and all newspapers that you’d like to.

Often, this will be in the form of a paid advertisement, but not in all newspapers, so you’ll have to check with each one to figure that part out.

In any case, I don’t think you have to worry about it appearing a year ahead of the wedding — after all they just got engaged, and the announcement is timely and newsy and close to the engagement, which is the point of putting it in the local newspaper.

And yes, asking the groom’s parents is a good way to involve them in the process and to make sure that is how they want to share the happy news involving their son.

HELEN’S ANSWER: Hopefully you will announce the engagement in your local newspaper and the future groom’s newspaper. It is such a happy time and it is fun for the couple’s friends and family members to read about them.

An engagement can be placed in newspaper at any time from a year ahead to several weeks ahead of the wedding.

I would love to read about the wedding, too. Hopefully you will publish lots of details. Most people enjoy reading about what everyone was wearing and about the beautiful flowers. Weddings are so hopeful!

GUEST’S ANSWER: Linda Miller, fashion expert and author of Fashion Matters Blog: Share the happy news early, as long as it's fine with your daughter and son-in-law.

And, certainly, check with the groom's parents about an announcement in their city paper. They're probably eager to let friends and family know, too.

Since 2009, Callie, Lillie-Beth and Helen have written this generational etiquette column. They also include guest responses from a wide range of ages each week. So many years later, Callie is 20-plus; Lillie-Beth is 40-plus and Helen is 60-plus. To ask an etiquette question, email