20-40-60 Etiquette: BYOB does not necessarily mean take-home
QUESTION: If the invitation states “BYOB,” and I take my own particular brand of drink to the party, do I then take it home or leave it for the host?
CALLIE’S ANSWER: I would ask the host if they would like to try it/want it. That way you will know if you should take it or not.
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: You’re bringing it for yourself to drink, but I don’t know if I would take it back home with me. Solve the problem by just bringing enough for you to drink that night, or ask the hosts if they’ll drink it after you leave and consider it a thank-you-for-hosting drink. I think this is one answer you can get there and feel out the situation, though.
HELEN’S ANSWER: If you take a bottle of your favorite brand of drink to a party, I think it should stay there. Leave it with your hosts if the bottle is opened, because there are laws in some states about driving with an open bottle. You also could get a smaller bottle of your beverage to take to the party.
GUEST’S ANSWER: Christina Nihira, community volunteer: First off, “BYOB” means to “bring your own bottle (or booze).” Of course, that indicates that alcohol won’t be provided and welcomes party-goers to bring their own. So that creates a plethora of choices from wine, beer to hard liquor. Grab your favorite spirit, and maybe, include a bit to share. Chill and go. Leave any extra for the host as a thank you. Cheers.
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