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20-40-60 Etiquette---Celebrating the New Year---at home or at a party?

 By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace

EDITOR’S NOTE: File this one away for next year. Thanks, the 20-40-60 Etiquette team.


QUESTION: The best way to celebrate New Year's Eve is always a point of contention between me and my husband. He loves going to parties, dancing the night away and spending time with friends.


I, in contrast, like a quiet night at home and prefer to sip on champagne in my pajamas. Any suggestions on how to avoid the annual “fight” this year?


CALLIE’S ANSWER: Have you thought about doing the best of both worlds? Going out to dance the night away then heading home around 11p.m. for a glass of champagne for cheers to the New Year.


LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: You might not be able to avoid a “fight,” but hopefully it’s not an ugly one. Like many issues involving conflict, this requires communication and compromise. Maybe you alternate between your choices each year or even within the same evening. Maybe he goes out and you stay home but he comes home from any parties just in time to ring in the new year with you. Maybe you make Jan. 1 your quiet night and Dec. 31 your party night or vice versa. Or maybe, if the issue is really important to either one of you, the other is willing to make the sacrifice and go out or stay in. Perhaps networking with people on this night is important to your husband. I don’t know. Working this issue out depends on your own relationship and your individual personalities. You don’t have to do everything together, but whatever you do, make sure you are respectful and supportive of each other, and try to understand the reasons behind the dispute.


HELEN’S ANSWER: Sounds like a compromise is in order. Maybe one year you can stay home and watch the New York festivities on television, and the next year, party with friends. We all have our ideas about how to celebrate the holidays and they aren’t always the same way as our husbands or wives would like. Good communication comes in here and some advance planning. Make your plan, whatever it is, and enjoy every minute of it! Happy 2017!


GUEST’S ANSWER: Richard Rosser, author of “Piggy Nation,” a series of books, a cartoon and more on etiquette: I have to admit, I’m partial to the “quiet” New Year’s Eve myself. Sorry to hear that you and your husband have conflicting opinions about how to ring in the New Year.


Have you considered trading off? One year you can party like it’s 1999 and the next, hunker down by the fire with a bottle of bubbly. Or combine both approaches in the same evening.


Start out with a bang but leave early to be home for the ball drop at midnight! As a last resort, you could file for a divorce, but that doesn’t seem like a fun way to start the New Year!


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Helen Ford Wallace

Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for... Read more ›

Lillie-Beth Brinkman

Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman Read more ›

Callie Athey

Callie Athey is 20-something and is a graduate from the University of Oklahoma. She has worked in various positions, ranging from Event Coordinator to Environmental Health and Safety Assistant. Currently, Callie is an Executive Assistant to a... Read more ›