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Should I give my opinion? 20-40-60 Etiquette


By Callie Athey, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace

QUESTION: I walk daily in my neighborhood with my dog. On a recent stroll, I saw that an acquaintance was doing a driveway project. I had completed a similar one at my home and unfortunately, had a complication.

I noticed that the same problem I experienced was apparently developing with their plan. However, it was not too late to remedy it.

Should I approach the neighbor and share my concerns?

CALLIE’S ANSWER: Yes, speak up. Your neighbors can take the information how they see fit.

LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: If it isn’t too late to fix it, then speak up, or, if it is, you can commiserate with them that they aren’t alone. You aren’t being a nosy, intrusive neighbor who is spying on someone; you happen to be walking by on a public street and can see the same problem developing that you had. If I were your neighbor, I would want to know the problem so I could fix it before it costs me more time and money. And I’d want to live in a neighborhood where neighbors are looking out for each other.

HELEN’S ANSWER: We are all thankful when someone helps us in any way, and I think your neighbors would appreciate you sharing your knowledge and experience with them. Just tell them what happened to you and and they can use the information in any way they choose.

GUEST’S ANSWER: Chuck Ainsworth, local civic leader: Assuming you and your neighbor are on fairly good terms, I would absolutely call and share your concerns based on your experience.

Home repair is usually stressful and your insight might mitigate unnecessary trauma and additional expense.

These days there are way too many people that just sit on the sidelines - bow out of that group!

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Helen Ford Wallace

Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for... Read more ›

Lillie-Beth Brinkman

Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a Content Marketing Manager for the Greater Oklahoma City Chamber of Commerce. She was previously an assistant editor of The Oklahoman Read more ›

Callie Athey

Callie Athey is 20-something and is a graduate from the University of Oklahoma. She has worked in various positions, ranging from Event Coordinator to Environmental Health and Safety Assistant. Currently, Callie is an Executive Assistant to a... Read more ›