Coronavirus in Oklahoma: Hobby Lobby closing stores, furloughing thousandsLive updates: Oklahoma coronavirus cases now 988; 38 dead

NewsOK: Oklahoma City News, Sports, Weather & Entertainment

20-40-60 Etiquette---Turkey! Ugh!


By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace

QUESTION: I don't care for turkey, and I have a relative who annually reminds everyone in the family that I don't like it. It's becoming tiresome. Should I just endure this yearly annoyance?

CALLIE'S ANSWER: Maybe tell that relative you do not like that attention. They should be able to understand why it is embarrassing.

LILLIE-BETH'S ANSWER: It's too bad you can't quietly dislike turkey. After all, no one notices its absence from individual plates, as people are too busy with their own.

Ask your relative to stop mentioning it. I assume you're not calling attention to your dislike, so there's no need to be in the spotlight.

Unfortunately, though, you don't have that much control over your family members' actions. You can only state your case and make the request.

HELEN'S ANSWER: If you don't like turkey, you don't like turkey. Hopefully, another meat is provided during the holiday dinner.

I guess you have to endure the relative's comments, unless you call him ahead of time, and tactfully ask him to refrain from his yearly harangue.

GUEST'S ANSWER: Dave Cathey, The Oklahoman's Food Editor: Turkey, like revenge, is a dish best served cold.

Perhaps this year you can email a video to your family warning them that any teasing about your aversion to turkey will result in an ice-bucket challenge administered before or during the traditional post-feast nap.

Be sure to include a closeup of the bucket full of ice water to let them know you mean business.

To ask an etiquette question, email

Related Photos

<figure><img src="//" alt="Photo - " title=" "><figcaption> </figcaption></figure>
Helen Ford Wallace

Helen Ford Wallace is a columnist covering society-related events/news for The Oklahoman. She puts local parties online with daily updates. She creates, maintains and runs a Parties blog which includes web casts. She is an online web editor for... Read more ›