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By Callie Gordon, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Helen Ford Wallace
QUESTION: Last spring a friend of our family was married. Prior to the wedding, I was invited to a bridal shower. I know both the bride and groom, but I know the groom much better than the bride.
I attended the bridal shower and took two gifts (totaling $30) listed on the couple’s registry. When my family attended the wedding several weeks later, we took with us a card with a $200 check enclosed. The couple honeymooned out of the country, but the check cleared our bank within two days of the wedding.
A few weeks ago, our family received a thank-you note for the two small items I had taken to the bridal shower, but no mention was made of the monetary gift. The thank-you note also thanked us for attending the wedding. Our family is split on how to handle this. My children say to let it go, but my husband and I think we should ask if they received the money.
One son thinks that the couple may still be writing thank-you notes and believe a thank-you for the check will be coming soon. Several of their family members were taking care of their wedding gifts while they honeymooned, and I thought it was strange that the check was cashed while they were supposed to be out of the country. I do not want to cause hard feelings, but I hope that this young couple did, indeed, get the money.
Any suggestions on what we should do, if anything?